Blogs and Relationships

I have some questions for you…! Just wanted to discuss, how effective blogs helps in finding a good friend. I know it is an abstract topic. Anyway I wanted to write about this. Some of your comments might lead me to what I am looking for !

You see different blogs with personal contents in different degrees. Blogs are just one of the ways to express yourself. You can find what are all the skills/talents a person have or how intelligent or dumb (or act like one) he/she is; what the person like or dislikes… The way one write the post or comments on the blog can give you an idea how logical and legitimate the person is.
[Let’s not discuss about exceptions- as it will there in every topic]

You might want to make friendship with the person after reading the contents as you see a good friend in him/her. Now my question is if you ever got disappointed after making personal relationship with that person? If yes, what are the reasons for it? Is it because of the assumptions you made about the person? They say, don’t make assumptions. I am not sure if it is possible in every case.

The virtual relationship starts from head and not from the heart. I think, in reality, people have friendships based how a person is able to empathize and sympathize – based on heart. How a person manages emotions is more important than IQ for relationships, right?

Reading a blog, I don’t think you can find out how emotionally intelligent a person is. So there should be more disappointment as you might the person not good in managing with heart – like expressing anger, empathy etc.,

Whether you understood this post or not try to answer this πŸ™‚
Do you believe in virtual relationship and making friend from it? Select one or more relevent answers.

1) I don’t believe in virtual relationships
2) I can make good friends from blogs
3) I have found good friends from blogs than by normal day-to-day interaction.
4) I don’t believe in statistics. It depends on you. The world is not same for everyone.
5) Depends on what you are looking for.
6) Can’t answer at the moment.


I am not what I might be,
I am not what I ought to be,
I am not what I wish to be,
I am not what I hope to be,
I am not what I once was,

“By the grace of God
I am what I am”

~John Newton (author of Amazing Grace)

  • Kishna

    >Nice topic to write a post on actually. Well, if you ask me, I would say that its very similar to your not-so-virtual friends. Some write blogs after much thought and few others just write what comes to ther mind and I really dont know how many of them write true to their heart. One of my friends tried that and then later removed the blog. It was really gutsy of her to try out something like that. I am not sure if anyone is so gutsy to reveal his/her identity so blaringly infront of the world. So, its upto you. I got a really amazing friend.. thanks to this world of blogdom and at the same time, I got so-so friends.
    And when I say amazing, she is just incredible.. (No, its not who you think it is..). I consider her as my true sister. On the other hand, there were wisps of friendship as well… the same way friends come in real life as well.. some are very close to you while others are not.. but if you are looking for life partner types, then I am not sure.. But, as they say.. known devil is better than an unknown angel πŸ˜‰ You decide….

  • Vanathi

    >Kicha what is the meaning of emotionally intelligent person ?
    My answer for your question is “depends on what you are looking for”. I am blogging for 3 months and havent met any blog friend of mine(not having the idea of meeting them), so I cannt able to clarify you questions…
    Feeling very sad πŸ™

  • Narayanan Venkitu

    >Well, we meet a lot of people, we talk to a lot of people but in the end..only a select few become close.!! Same can apply here I think.

  • Krish

    Thanks for the comment man! It’s been a long time since you were active in blogs.
    Yes, everyone may not reveal what their true feelings are. Just wanted to know how does it differ from making friends from real life πŸ™‚

    Emotional Intelligence ?
    It how you feel,empathize understand your feelings and others as well. You may want to read this:

    Don’t feel sad for not able to answer my question!

    @Venkitu sir:
    Thanks boss! Finally it’s all boils down to how we conside one as friend or not or what you are looking for.

  • Kishna

    >umm… in that case, my take is that it’s the same as making real life friends…

  • Vanathi

    >Emotional Intelligence or EI describes an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one’s self, of others, and of groups. Emotional intelligence is founded in the ideas of Howard Gardner’s 1975-work called The Shattered Mind, which began the formulation of his ideas for “Multiple Intelligences” (he identifies seven intelligences), including both interpersonal intelligence and intrapersonal intelligence. Many psychologists, such as Gardner, believe that traditional measures of intelligence, such as the IQ test, fail to fully explain cognitive ability.

  • susubala

    >Friendship can be cultivated in many chances, through blog, through co-passenger, by regularly seeing a person without a word would develop… But how the wavelength matches each other matters.

  • Krish


    I shouln’t have given that link :). May be useful if you are interested in psycology. Here in this post I just wanted to mention EI as how we feel instead of how we think!!!

    Thx anyway for putting the definition here !

    Thanks Sumi!

  • Vanathi

    >Yeah, you shouldn’t have…

  • Krish


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  • Anonymous

    >Why some much confusion about relationships.. no need to define the love with EI or something … and also no need to manage emotions,feelings… let it flows in its own direction… whether we get good relation or doesn’t..after that… but finally I think we shall get the peace πŸ™‚

  • Naresh

    >Cool TOpic! n i tell u i am one of the best examples to reinstate point 3. I have made good frnz thru blogs than thru day-to-day interactions Ofcrse blogs introduce u mutually, and a relation starts. You need to know each other and see if you can be friends. Blogs need not necessarily present the holistic view of a person’s self, but it happens that if the blogger is sincere enuf, one cannot misjudge him thru blogs. This is an awesome tool, u c!

  • Anonymous

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