Who can express affection well?

Can you enlighten me on this question: I believe expression is very important in any relationship. Who can express their affection well?

  • The one who was well nurtured during childhood- one who was cared and shown affection.
  • Or, the one who didn’t receive enough affection and had to be alone in childhood with very few friends and who had to learn to show affection after becoming an adult.

PS: Why that pic. for this post. I liked it.That’s it. So cute naa..

Pic Source: An email forward
We choose those we like; with those we love, we have no say in the matter.
~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic’s Notebook, 1960

  • NaiKutti

    >i think each has its own advantages/disadvantages… but am slightly bent (51-49 infavor) towards the second option

    the pic is so cute krish…

  • chaitΓΌ

    >tough! it depends actually…
    each option has 50 50 chances…
    second option, the one who didn’t recieve enough affection during childhood may not know how to express his/her feelings for others. It happens. They prefer showing his/her affection only when the other person also shows it equally and encourages him/her also to show. They prefer not to show their emotions, usually. They think alot before getting closed to anyone as they have the fear of losing that relation.
    first option, has both sides. they may show their affection, as they know how happy the other person feels for it. some mightn’t care for it as they don’t realize the value of it(coz they have it).

    nice picture πŸ™‚

  • Krish


    Thank you !

    Great answers! You are a true Aquarian πŸ™‚

    Thanks Vanathi.
    Yeah… I can see that !

  • chaitΓΌ

    >i think so too πŸ˜‰

  • :: The Protector ::

    >it depends….
    1 set of people show affection without hestitation at any time and how you are. 2 nd set of people might not be like that


  • Smyta

    >Expressions..hmm…answer: neither and both!

    I have known people who get so much love in their early years tht they never learn to express things to others..and I have seen people who have never had an ounce of love expressed to them but they lavishly shower love and express it so much on all!

    The vice versa happens too!

    It is important that U smile , u express…for if anything is in ur control it is YOU! Eveyrone else like a mirror will reciprocate!

    U express and they will unfold their feelings to u!:-)

    Smiles etc.,


  • RandomThoughts

    >A person who is showered with affection can also be one who only knows to receive but cannot give. While a person who had no affection while growing up will know exactly what he missed! Still…. it is an open question.

    Cute picture krish!

  • Me

    >it is highly dependent on the person and his/her preferences

  • frissko

    >u alright?:)…your blog seems to be in a major soul-searching mode!..
    and as for your question, to start with, neither…the 1st kind would be extroverted, naive and stupid and the 2nd wud be inside a shell…and with time maturity hits the 1st kind and real world wakes up the 2nd…and after that it is subjective…
    but when it comes to expressing yourself to the love of your life or someone as important, i think no one can do it well (atleast i’d like to beleive so:)!!…

  • Krish

    >@chatu: πŸ™‚

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    Yes, even i have seen people who got so much love and affection who shows it to everyone without understanding the implications of it. There are situations we must exercise caution in expressing affection as well – it might be misunderstood and get us into unnecessary problems.

    The seond case, I think those people can show the love and affection to all – provided they understood the value by receiveing it somewhere. Though they might be good at heart, they not show they affection. They can be good reflectors :-). As times goes on they might get stabilized.

    Thanks for your opinion.
    I beleive, those who received good affection and care can show it naturally. I don’t think those who never received affection can show it to others unless they receive it somewhere and understands the value. Otherwise there is no way for them to know what they missed.

    Thanks Imse πŸ™‚

    me alright buddy :-). Planning to change my blog name to : Questions !

    Agree with ur comments!!!

  • soumya

    >it is complex phenomena… i think we r unable to shape this aspect of personality…

    nice pic…

  • exasparater

    >nice post!!!

    “ps” always reminds me princess sophie in the novel “THE DA VINCI CODE”..

  • J

    >Sweeeet pic, Krishna πŸ™‚

    reg the question:
    50-50 in each case. 1st option padi iruka konjam pasanghaluku, care/affection’aa irukarthoda arumai theriyathu (as they get all times). so they might not show it to other ppl.
    2nd option pasangha, they long for that feeling, so they will be ready or willing to show that feeling towards others.

    and 2 cases’layum opposite to wat i said above’a irukarthukum chances iruku.

  • Dalicia

    >hi krish,

    thank you for the birthday wishes πŸ™‚ sure, i’ll have fun…in fact, i’m going to treat myself til the end of the month…haha that’s what i call a real birthday treat πŸ˜€

    i’ll dropby your blog…i don’t know tamil. the only word i know is “vannekum”
    πŸ˜€ …thanks!